Everything You Need To Know About Bondage Sex

You've probably heard the term "bondage" used before at some point. But when it comes to the toys, positions and rules that roll up under the term, what exactly are we talking about here? For starters, you might be surprised to learn that bondage can be used as a standalone practice for pleasure — without any actual penetration. "Bondage and sex are not necessarily synonymous," says bondage expert Angela Lieben.

"Though they typically work together, bondage is less about the sex and more about the feeling of empowerment it generates then the act itself. Bondage, or the art of restraint, can be used for creating an intense sexual charge, and then, for some, an orgasmic release. People who incorporate bondage into their sex lives derive a lot of pleasure and sexual gratification."

Although bondage can run the gamut depending on what you're using as a restraint, Stacy Rybchin, founder of MySecretLuxury.com says there are a few key components that are usually incorporated. "A typical bondage session consists of two 'players,' a top and a bottom," she explains. "Tops are the dominant player, the one who is in charge. Bottoms are submissive and are on the receiving end. Players who like to swap are known as switches."

1. Bondage Sex Myths

It's Not "Normal"

Bondage tends to get a bad rap because of its association with BDSM — but Reba Corrine, sex expert and wellness consultant says not to let that throw you. "Bondage does put the B in BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism), which often stirs discomfort among the less sexually adventuresome," she explains. "But there is no cause for alarm if you or your mate find these acts appealing. Role playing is the common thread that weaves these sexual behaviors together, as one partner must assume the dominant role, while the other must play the submissive. This type of sexual exploration is quite common and, when explored by two trusting and open partners, can be quite rewarding."

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It Requires One Partner To Be Completely Immobile

"Bondage sex can actually be reciprocal and does not always involve being tied down and rendered helpless," Lieben explains. "In fact, some couples I know enjoy being blindfolded while having the freedom to move their limbs and feel with their hands. There are even some couples who enjoy restricting their partner's speech using a ball gag. Exploring bondage can be as simple as wearing a collar and leading your partner to pleasure."

It Has To Hurt

"Bondage shouldn't hurt (unless you're into that kind of thing)," says Corrine, " and it should never feel like abuse. Trust and honest communication are key for successfully exploring any kind of kink in the bedroom. Talk with your partner about your likes and dislikes. Discuss new moves before you try them, set limitations and make expectations very clear for all involved before engaging in any bondage play. Remember to be mindful of your partner, too. You both are exploring this together and it's important to create a safe space for each other and respect each others feelings."


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